To offer some guidance on when you should just give your vagina a rest for a few days and when you should see a doctor right away, Cosmopolitan. Anne-Marie Aimes Oelschlarger, a pediatric and adolescent gynecologist at Seattle Children’s Hospital, about all the different things vaginal bleeding after sex can mean. CLEARING UP A MYTH ABOUT HYMENSBefore getting into regular degular postcoital bleeding, it’s a good time to clarify what actually is happening when you bleed after the first time you have sex. But there’s not really any popping or tearing taking place. The hymen is a thin piece of tissue inside the vaginal opening.
But the hymen can also stretch during other non-sexual activities, like riding a bike. People who say they never bled after sex probably had their hymen stretched before and just never noticed it. Much less aggressive than popping or breaking. WHERE THE BLOOD COMES FROMVaginal bleeding after sex gets complicated fast because there are lots of different spots the blood can be coming from, and it’s almost impossible to tell on your own, without the tools and expertise of a medical professional. Different things cause each of these locations to bleed, and they all vary in severity.
The most immediately severe bleeding comes from a tear in a vaginal septum, which is a piece of flesh that divides the vagina in half that about 1 in every 3,000 to 80,000 women are estimated to be born with. Bleeding from the other locations is harder to differentiate because there may not be a lot of blood and it’s hard to peer up into your vagina with a flashlight to see what’s going on up there. As Aimes-Oelschlarger explained, the most important thing to pay attention to is the volume and rate of the bleeding. Like any other wound, a lot of blood is never a good sign. Most postcoital bleeding will be pretty light, except for the septum,” she said.
It’s pretty rare to have really heavy bleeding unless there’s a laceration in the vagina. She clarified that if you’re passing a clot larger than the size of a quarter, soaking through a maxi pad, or feeling lightheaded or dizzy, you should go to the emergency room. But for lighter bleeding that subsides in a few hours or within a day or so, you can call your gynecologist and schedule an appointment. WHEN YOU SHOULD SEE YOUR GYNECOLOGISTEven though the bleeding might go away quickly, or not come with any sort of pain, Aimes-Oelschlarger said you should still plan to see your gynecologist. The most crucial reason to see your gynecologist, though, is that regularly bleeding from your cervix during and after sex can be an early sign of cervical cancer.
Cervical dysplasia, or a change in the cells that line the cervix, is a precancerous condition that’s often caused by HPV, and Aimes-Oelschlarger said it can cause bleeding. At a gynecologist visit for postcoital bleeding, Aimes-Oelschlarger said you can expect your doctor to ask a series of questions to first figure out how severe the bleeding is and how commonly you might experience bleeding between periods. Then she said you’ll probably test for STIs, HIV, and pregnancy, and then have an exam to rule out polyps, a yeast infection, or any larger fissures that might be on the wall or entry of your vagina. HOW YOU CAN PREVENT BLEEDINGAs it is with almost every single preventable problem you can have with your vagina, Aimes-Oelschlarger emphasized the importance of lube. If a couple has frequent intercourse — like multiple times during the day — or they have prolonged intercourse and they’re not using enough lubrication, it’s not uncommon to have a little light bleeding that should resolve within a day,” she said. She clarified that for older women, declining levels of estrogen can lead to more sensitive vaginal tissue that tears more easily. But women of all ages can experience small fissures if they’re not properly lubricated — it has nothing to do with how feminine or sexy or cool you are, it’s just a thing that happens to basically all ladies.
Another way to prevent bleeding is to take things nice and slow if it’s been a while since you’ve last had sex. If you haven’t had sex for a while, go slowly. If you’re with a partner who has trouble controlling himself, try changing positions so you have more control. And then, of course, you should always be having conversations with your partner, so the sex is fun and comfortable for both of you. A very easy to way to do that? I’ll say it once more: Always be using enough lube. Is It Normal to Gain Weight on Your Period?